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How to Host a Gathering That Builds Real Friendships
I stopped waiting for invitations years ago. Somewhere around my late twenties, living in New York City, I realized that…
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One Trip Changed How I Think About Male Friendship
My friend Jonathan’s bachelor party in Mexico City changed how I think about male friendship. Three days. Shared meals every…
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Put Down Your Phone and Make a Friend
There’s a café in Amsterdam called the Offline Club. You pay about $8 to lock your phone in a box….
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Who’s Actually Lonely in America? The Data Might Surprise You
Who’s the loneliest person you know? I bet you’re picturing the wrong person. The data on loneliness in America is…
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Men’s Friendship Recession: The Statistics and Real Solutions
Seven guys showed up to a restaurant in Phoenix. That’s how it started. Quincy Winston is 38, former military, works…
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The Male Friendship Crisis: What the Data Really Shows
I’ve hosted hundreds of parties over the past decade. And one pattern shows up every single time: men arrive alone,…
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The Friendship Divide: Why Your Education Level Affects Your Social Life
Most of my friends work in tech. A lot of them didn’t finish college. They started businesses, taught themselves to…
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42 Thoughts on Join or Die and Bowling Alone
I was thinking today about the movie Join or Die, based on the book Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam, and how it all…
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Are we in a Friendship Recession? Half of adults didn’t make a new friend last year
I read a good article on Yahoo! that I want to talk about here. It literally talks about the “Friendship…
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Making friends as an adult is hard. Here’s the secret.
This is such a good article. It was originally published in November, 2025 on the Washington Post by Maggie Penman….
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Friendship Recession: Why We’re More Alone Than Ever
I started this site because I kept hearing the same thing. At my cocktail parties, at dinners, in DMs from…
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All the Lonely Men: How to Survive the Friendship Recession
I read an article from Ireland last week about men and loneliness. It made me sad. Then I got to…
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Why Is the Loneliness Epidemic So Hard to Cure?
I think this is the best article I’ve found on loneliness. It’s long. But it’s worth your time. The New…
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Why Texting Your Friends Isn’t Enough
I was about to text my friend back. Then I stopped myself. I called him instead and asked if he…
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Treat Your Friendships Like Exercise
I have a group text with six guys. We send memes. We talk about nothing important. We share links and…
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11 Things I Learned About Why Men Need More Friends
Every few months I read another article about men and loneliness. This one from Salon had me stopping to highlight…
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Men Used to Write Love Letters to Their Friends
In the 1800s, American men shared beds with their friends. They wrote each other deeply emotional letters. They addressed each…
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Why Men Lose Their Friends and How to Make New Ones
Garrie Coleman spent 24 years in the British Army. He served in Northern Ireland, Kosovo, Iraq, and Cyprus. He built…
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Are We in a ‘Friendship Recession’?
I think about this interview a lot. A therapist who moved around the country and had to rebuild friendships every…
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Some Weeks I Only Speak to the Postman
I love this article because it names something most people don’t realize. “Learned loneliness.” That’s when you’ve been isolated so…
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Are You Experiencing a Friendship Recession?
I picked this article because it connects two things I think about a lot. The friendship recession stats are bad….
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Why Is It So Hard for Men to Make Close Friends?
I talk to men all the time who are struggling with this. They won’t say it out loud. But they’re…
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Scientists Warn of a Friendship Recession. I’m Part of It.
I love this article so much. The author signed up for a comedy class just to meet people. And everyone…
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The Friendship Recession (Richard Reeves)
I think about this video a lot. Richard Reeves is one of the smartest people talking about the friendship recession….
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Side-by-Side: How Men Actually Build Real Friendships
My friend Dave and I don’t talk about our feelings. We play pickleball. We grab tacos after. We complain about…